I’ve optimized my life around two things
Learning: I love the entire process of sharpening my craft. The feeling of challenging myself and growing 1% every day makes me feel alive.
Community: An amazing day is when I spend quality time with my people. While romantic connections are great, I actively prioritize my friendships.
I’m obsessed with bachata
Partner dance has always terrified me. So I made it my New Year’s resolution to take an intro Bachata class in 2019 and luckily, I survived. Fast forward to today, I've danced all over the world, learned from the best teachers, and even became a teacher myself.
I’m a writer, marketer, and community builder
While I’m proud of what I do for work, it’s no longer the one thing that truly defines me. If you’re curious about my career, this podcast interview is a great summary. Or see my LinkedIn profile. But I believe we should all be ruthlessly honest about why we work.
I’m currently a "digital slomad"
I grew up in the San Francisco Bay Area but deep down, I knew I didn't belong there. So I tested out the "digital nomad" life and visited places like South Africa and Thailand. The always-traveling lifestyle wasn't for me either.
I accepted a new job opportunity that made me relocate to Toronto, a city that I've visited twice before and both times, I've had that rare gut feeling of "I could totally imagine myself living here." Unfortunately I ran into VISA issues that prevented me from living there long-term.
So I'm trying the nomadic lifestyle again but with much more intention. I want to be in only a few places per year for a longer period of time. I've chosen México City and Toronto to be my home bases with pit stops in California. So far, it's been working out great. 🌎
I used to be really into personal growth
I read How to Win Friends & Influence People when I was 17 and my life improved dramatically. Then I wondered, “Why didn’t anyone tell me books can change your life?” This led me down a rabbit hole of self-help books, life coaches, and therapists to be my best self.
Luckily it all worked out. Today, I feel confident, grounded, and self-compassionate with the man I see in the mirror. So I'm kind of over the personal growth phase now. Self-help has done its job and I spend my time doing other fun things.
I used to be a chess expert
That sabbatical pushed me to my absolute limit and I loved it—easily a top 5 life experience. But I don't play much nowadays as I'm too focused on dance.
I’m an author, but I’ve outgrown this title
The first book that I self-published was How to Network, a breezy read to help young professionals learn how to make friends in the business world. The second book was How to Land Your Dream Internship, a step-by-step guide to help college students find jobs.
I'm proud of both books. But I wrote them so long ago. I don’t feel it’s relevant to me at all anymore. So I removed the “author” title from all my bios, thanks Derek Sivers.
I publish a life reflection every year
Every year on my birthday, I reflect on my highs, lows, and everything in between.
This tradition is an amazing way to measure backward and appreciate how far I've come.
Here's what I'm up to right now. ✌️
My blog has a new direction
This blog used to be about a lot of things: networking, career advice, business, personal growth, crafting a meaningful life, etc.
But my motivations and curiosities have changed over the last decade. Moving forward, I decided my little corner of the internet wouldn’t have any niche.
This site is purely about the life experiences and ramblings of Tam Pham.
I’ll write whatever I feel like, whenever I want, with no goal of turning this blog into a full-time business. You know, like how blogging used to be back in 2008.
Changing this mindset has made me feel happier, lighter, and actually more motivated to write. So if you want to follow my adventure, subscribe for more.
Or don’t. Life is short – make the most out of your wild and precious life.